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How To Stay Lovers As Well As ParentsChildren can bring great joy to a marriage,and they deserve our love and attention.But t heir arrival can alter1) the couple' s usual way of doing things,and even the way they feel about each other.There is great harm in boxing ourselves into a role of“servants of children.”We mistakenly think that the children of course can' t take care of themselves,but that marriage can.When time together as a couple is at the bottom of the priority list,not only do we parents suffer,but our children suffer too.Couples can have passion in your love life again if you strike a happy balance between your needs and those of your children.Begin by acknowledging that you are lovers as well as parents.Staying lovers with your spouse is,in fact,essential to keep harmony in the family.“Romance,on the scale of human needs,may not rank quite as high as food or shelter,”writes author Laurence Shames.“But it does not fall much farther down--it' s one of the things we live .”It' s easy to get this.When we become parents,many of us suddenly feel we must be serious,no-nonsense) people.But who doesn't desire a happy and vigorous3) marriage?Here are some ways to create that romance.1.Keep each other interested.Real life is not a romantic fairy tale.The baby spits up) and cries a lot.There are bills to pay and laundry to do.No one can be Prince or Princess Charming all the time.But you can create an environment that is conductive to romance,and bring out the lover in your spouse.One friend of mine,Joyce,felt that her marriage was in the doldrums5).She is too busy with the kids,and her husband hi s work.There seems to be a wall between them.Then one day,she sent the kids to her mother's house.Putting on her most beautiful dress,she greeted her husband at the door.Amazed,her husband gave her a long kiss and then carried her inside.They sat by a cozy fire,then had an intimate dinner and had a fantastic time.After couples have been married a while and especially when the baby is born,spouses often get the notion that the hunt is over.They stop trying to make themselves attractive and stimulating.Keep in mind that we are living in a world full of temptations of all sorts,don' t let go your efts to be appealing to your spouse and keep each other interested.1. Have fun away from the children.When Melly turned 35,she and her husband celebrated two nights in San Francisco.“We had a blast6)”she recalled.“I didn't want it to be over.But you know,you always pay it in the end.”“What do you mean?”I asked.“Well,you end up feeling guilty because you had so much fun away from the kids.”Melly,like many other parents today,carries around with her an unrealistic sense of parental duty that can put a damper on a potentially enjoyable evening. some couple,it prevents them from going out together,except to attend weddings,funerals.But to maintain romance and intimacy7) in your relationship,it is crucial that you set aside time to have fun together and not sabotage the occasion with guilt.It's not easy to separate from children,especially if one of them is screaming and clinging to you like a leech while your husband is waiting impatiently in the car.Train yourself to realize that getting out with your spouse is essential you to be a good parent,good lover,a good person.3.Become a couple of lovers again.Create a fun evening yourselves in such a way that you become a couple of lovers again,not Joey' s dad or Janie's mom.If you spend the whole evening out discussing the kids and problems at work,you are missing the point.Often there is a need to talk about those things,but couples who have fun limit discussion of family issues.At dinner,talk turns to current events,books,music,art,good times.“My husband and I always start with a toast to our love each other--and to successfully getting out of the houseThen we talk about when we were younger and some of the risks we've taken,like going rafting down a river,”tells Julie,mother of two little boys.“That kind of reminiscing8) sets up an exciting evening.”.Magic of surprises.Malcolm,the father of two preteen children,once sneaked out the back door and rang the front door bell.When his wife answered,he gave her a single rose and asked her a date.“I felt like a schoolgirl again.”She told her friend with excitement and pride.Surprise,a gift,an invitation to dinner or a movie,or an air ticket a trip can work like a magic that creates the romance and sparkle in your love life.Parents need to allow themselves time to have fun--to laugh and enjoy themselves.Creating romantic moments can be a terrific antidote restlessness and discontent.When couples make the eft to generate enthusiasm in their relationship,they build a powerfully intimate connection,one that invigorates a mature love with a young romantic love. 899。

  • 我热爱生命,但我不惧怕死亡死亡不过是去另一个世界的过渡,就像朋友跨越海洋一样;他们依然活在另一个世界里”我坚信,是死亡教会了我们永生 About Secrets and Falling Tiles by Carroll Binder "We are all at the mercy of a falling tile," Julius Caesar reminds us in Thornton Wilder's Ides of March. None of us knows at what hour something we may love may suffer some terrible blow by a ce we can neither anticipate nor control. Fifty-five years of living, much of the time in trouble centers of a highly troubled era, have not taught me how to avoid being hit by falling tiles. I have sustained some very server blows. My mother died when I was three years old. My first-born son, a gifted and idealistic youth, was killed in the war. While I was still cherishing the hope that he might be alive, circumstance beyond my control made it impossible me to continue work into which I had poured my heart's blood twenty years. I speak of such things here in the hope of helping others to believe with me that there are resources within one's grasp which enable one to sustain such blows without being crushed or embittered by them. I believe the best hope of standing up to falling tiles is through developing a sustaining philosophy and state of mind all through life. I have seen all sorts of people sustain all sorts of blows in all sorts of circumstances by all sorts of faiths, so I believe anyone can find a faith that will serve his needs if he persists in the quest. One of the best ways I know of tifying oneself to withstand the vicissitudes of his insecure and unpredictable era is to school oneself to require relatively little in the way of material possessions, physical satisfactions or the praise of others. The less one requires of such things the better situated one is to stand up to changes of tune. I am singularly rich in friendships. Friends of all ages have contributed enormously to my happiness and helped me greatly in times of need. I learned one of the great secrets of friendship early in life - to regard each person with whom one associates as an end in himself, not a means to one's own ends. That entails trying to help those with whom one comes in contact to find fulfillment in their own way while seeking one's own fulfillment in one's own way. Another ethical principle that has stood me in good stead is Know thyself! I try to acquaint myself realistically with my possibilities and limitations. I try to suit my aspirations to goals within my probable capacity to attain. I may have missed some undiscovered possibilities growth but I have spared myself much by not shooting stars it clearly was not given me to attain. I have seen much inhumanity, cheating, corruption, sordidness and selfishness but I have not become cynical. I have seen too much that is decent, kind and noble in men to lose faith in the possibility a far finer existence than yet has been achieved. I believe the quest a better life is the most satisfying pursuit of men and nations. I love life but I am not worried about death. I do not feel that I have lost my son and a host of others dear to me by death. I believe with William Penn that "they that love beyond the World cannot be separated by it. Death is but Crossing the World, as Friends do the Seas; they live in one another still." Death, I believe, teaches us the things of deathlessness. 93。
  • To George and Georgiana Keats, th December 1818, - January 1819 My dear brother and sister; You will be prepared, bee this reaches you the worst news you could have, nay if Haslam’s letter arrives in proper time, I have a consolation in thinking the first shock will be past bee you receive this. The last days of poor Tom were of the most distressing nature; but his last moments were not so painful, and his very last was without a pang—I will not enter into any parsonic comments on death—yet the common observations of the commonest people on death are as true as their proverbs. I have scarce a doubt of immortality of some nature of other—neither had Tom. My friends have been exceedingly kind to me every one of them—Brown detained me at his house. I suppose no one could have had their time made smoother than mine has been. During poor Tom’s illness I was not able to write and since his death the task of beginning has been a hindrance to me. Mrs. Browne who took Brown’s house the summer, still resides in Hampstead—she is a very nice woman—and her daughter is I think beautiful and elegant, graceful, silly, fashionable and strange we have a little tiff now and then—and she behaves a little better, o I must have sheered off. Shall I give you Miss Browne? She is about my height—with a fine style of countenance of the lengthened sort—she wants sentiment in every feature—she manages to make her hair look well—her nostrils are fine—though a little painful—her mouth is bad and good—her profil is better than her full-face which indeed is not full put pale and thin without showing any bone—her shape is very graceful and so are her movements—her arms are good her hand badish—her feet tolerable—she is not seventeen—but she is ignorant—monstrous in her behaviour flying out in all directions, calling people such names—that I was ced lately to make use of the term Minx—this is I think not from any innate vice but from a penchant she has acting stylishly. I am however tired of such style and shall decline any more of it. But I will go no further—I may be speaking sacrilegiously—and on my word I have thought so little that I have not one opinion upon any thing except in matters of taste—I never can feel certain of any truth but from a clear perception of its Beauty—and I find myself very young minded even in that perceptive power—which I hope will encrease—A year ago I could not understand in the slightest degree Raphael’s cartoons—now I begin to them a little. When I was last at Haydon’s I looked over a book of prints taken from the fresco of the church at Milan the name of which I get—in it are comprised Specimens of the first and second age of art in Italy—I do not think I ever had a greater treat out of Shakespeare—Full of Romance and the most tender feeling—magnificence of draperies beyond any I ever saw not excepting Raphael’s—But Grotesque to a curious pitch—yet still making up a fine whole—even finer to me than more accomplished works—as there was left so much room imagination. 09。
  • 英语口语——“我明天没有时间”怎么说 -- 1:51:6 来源:  I won’t have time tomorrow.  我明天没有时间  A Why don’t you come a drink tomorrow evening after work?  A 你明天下班后来喝一杯怎么样?  B Thanks, but I won’t have time. I’m working late tomorrow.  B 谢谢,但是我没有时间我明天要工作到很晚  A Surely you’re not working too late. You’ll have time.  A 你当然不要工作到太晚你会有时间的  B I’m not sure when I’ll finish. I’ll be tired by the evening.  B 我不能肯定我什么时候会把工作干完到晚上的时候我会很累的  A OK, I understand. But if you finish early, you could come.  A 好吧,我理解但是如果你早点结束的话,你要来啊  B OK. Maybe I will come. I’ll see how I feel when I finish work.  B 好的也许我会来的这要看我干完后感觉如何  Notes 注释  1 Remember the negative m talking about the future – won’t won’t, eg: I won’t have time tomorrow I won’t have time tomorrow : I won’t be late I won’t be late..  记住谈论将来事情的否定形式——won’t won’t,例如:I won’t have time tomorrow 我明天没有时间I won’t be late 我不会迟到的   Remember also the structure of sentences beginning with If . . . If . . . eg: If you finish early, you could come If you finish early, you could come: If you leave early, you’ll arrive in time If you leave early, you’ll arrive in time.  也请记住以If . . . 如果. . .开头的句子结构例如:If you finish early, you could come 如果你早点结束的话,你要来啊If you leave early, you’ll arrive in time 如果你早点出发的话,你会及时赶到的 英语 明天 时间。
  • 英语口语:使用频率最高的美语口语96句(7) -- 1:55:18 来源: 1. give sth. one's best shot 尽最大努力   . If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. 受不了压力,就离开吧   3. If the shoe fits, wear it. 若这话说对了,就接受意见吧   . like two peas in a pod 腻在一起   5. point-blank 直接地   6. down in the dumps 心情跌入谷底   7. give sb. a piece of one's mind 教训某人一顿   8. If you want a thing done well, do it yourself.你想要做好一件事,就要自己动手   9. Don't spend it all in one place. 不要全部用在一个地方   50. go out on a climb to do sth. 冒着危险   51. There's no time like the present. 没有比现在更合适的时候了   5. see the handwriting on the wall 预感不祥之兆   53. Two's company, three is a crowd. 两个人刚刚好,三个人太多了   5.Every family has a skeleton in the closet. 家家有本难念的经   55. hardly have time to breathe 没有喘息的时间   56. keep your eyes on the ball 专心   57. leave no stone unturned 不遗余力;彻底   58. I mean it. 我是说真的   59. make one's hair stand on end 使人害怕;毛骨悚然   60. The walls have ears. 隔墙有耳   61. bring home the bacon 维持生计;获得成功   6. They lived happily ever after. 他们从此过着幸福的生活   63. blow the whistle on sb. sth. 揭发;制止某人(某事)   6. Ignorance is bliss. 不知便是福   65. People who live in glass houses should't throw stones.自己有短处,就总揭发别人的短处   66. pull out all the stops 用尽一切的实力   67. take the wind out of one's sails 使某人顿时泄气,威风扫地   68. in the seventh heaven 在无比的幸福快乐中   69. The end justifies the means. 为目的不择手段   70. call a spade a spade 有话直说   71. A woman's work is never done. 家务永远做不完   7. one's name will be mud 某人将声名狼藉   73. play second fiddle to sb. 充当副手   7. the rhird time's the charm 第三次总是幸运的   75. shape up or ship out 好自为之,不然就离开   76. Old dogs can't learn new tricks. 老人不容易适应新事物   77. Life's full fo surprise. 人生充满了惊喜   78. So quiet that you could hear a pin drop. 安静地连根针掉地上都听得见   79. turn back the clock 时光逆转   0. Fancy meeting you here. 怎么会在这里遇见你 英语口语 口语 频率。
  • 在家中的生活习惯用语 -- :57: 来源: 我经常下班以后运动I usually work out after work. *work out“训练,运动”I usually go to the gym after work.I usually exercise after work.我开始慢跑锻炼Ive started jogging.Ive started jogging. (我开始慢跑锻炼)Since when? (什么时候开始的?)我戒烟了I quit smoking. *quit“辞职,改变习惯”No, thanks. I quit smoking. (不,谢谢,我已经戒了)Good you. (你真伟大)I stopped smoking.I dont smoke anymore.Ive become a non-smoker.I no longer smoke.你常做梦吗?Do you dream often?Do you often have dreams?Do you dream a lot?最近我总是丢三落四的Ive been getful lately.Ive been getful these days. 日常英语 英语口语。
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